obey .. don't obey

Your lack of vacuum cleaning is the problem until you start initiating vacuum cleaning 

 you see Jane even your reaction to this post is telling 

The answer of course is that women far prefer ticking people off to actually having somebody vacuum for them.. not at least their lover

 . and also they prefer ticking the lover off or making him feel inadequate compared to other men than actually capitulating to him in the bedroom.. in the same way as women out in the street get far more pleasure out of calling their boyfriend and saying that man made me aroused.. and initiating you being beaten up rather than taking the arousal further.. it's what we used to call frigid